Happy birthday buddy!!

2 lil debbie snack cakes with a candle on top....yeah I let you pick the candle stupid movie on dvd.........hey.....it's your birthday man.. that inappropriate joke about your mom..and naked......well yeah, admit it, you laffed!!! :) Venison steaks and oven fries.....pretty damn good food.... 3 rounds of darts....good wrap up... Happy 14th birthday my son......and hoping for many many more...:)

I am...

increasingly hopeful, and of a positive mind. We can work this out..together. I love you my wife. I will prove to you..this is not a waste of our time. I may not be the same man you fell in love with, but I am a man worthy of your love..:) This is my new musical crush.....heard her again today on the "Live from Ireland" channel. Her name is Eilis Kennedy..(pronounced Ay-leeesh...yeah gaelic is goofy that way. You should google her up if you like this. Her latest cd has a version of "crazy man Michael" that will make you cry. For those of you not familiar with the song "crazy man Michael" it's a Irish folk song. you can find a pretty good version HERE.

So I get a letter yesterday......

....and it's from "the friend of the court". I don't know about other states, but here in Michigan, this is the division of family court that lives and breathes enforcing "child support". Nobody likes them....whether you are writing the check..or getting the check...they are not your friend.. Don't get me wrong friends...whether or not you and your other can stick it out, you take care of your kids. You take care of them emotionally and financially if you can...but at least financially. Your kid should have enough to be fed, clothed, and housed....you helped make it...you help make it good. Letting the court decide how this should be done......does not ensure this...lol I used to work with a gal, her husband was in fairness a deadbeat dad for awhile. He finally got a good job and started paying support....she waited for months for the check. She'd call, friend of the court, they'd say no..we've seen nothing...we're about to issue a bench warrant. She'd call him, and he'd say bullshit...I just paid them $1000.00, they are taking it directly out of my payroll. Finally his case worker called her case worker, when he moved...they created a new case number, and a new account. He was paying, they were sitting on the money, he was getting legal credit for paying, and she wasn't getting the checks. He almost went to jail.... So anywho.....back to the letter....... WTF??? I don't pay child support through the court. My ex and I agreed 10 years ago we would work out support between us and fuck the court. We've never been to court since the divorce was final. She couldn't possibly be petitioning??? Surely she would have warned me.. With shaking hands I open the letter and read very slowly...the 4 (yes four) printed lines...on 2 sheets of paper... (page 1) Mr. Zig, under state law we are obligated to inform you that you are entitled to a review every 3 years. (page 2) Mr. Zig, if you would like a review, here is your case number. Feel free to call us. OH SHIT!!! Thats right....we waived child support because she was going to have to pay me. We WAIVED child support because we didn't want the court to pull a bullshit number like what they were going to stick to her. Two sheets of paper for 4 lines of ink, in an envelope...meter mailed to a divorced parent not in their system. No wonder my otherwise pleasant state is going bankrupt. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..........

If your sewer ever backs up

And you are on city pipes.................a gallon of caustic soda goes a long way.....just saying. That and a few gallons of bleach to clean after........

Rumours, theories and gossip.........

OK. I know I said I was taking a break from blogging...and I am, but I felt this needed to be said. Those that know us, probably have opinions or ideas as to wtf is going on. Those opinions are fair, and opinions that should be shared directly with either of us. If either of us have shared with you personally, what is going on, we probably trust ya pretty damn much....keep that trust, atleast between us. Rumours will fly...gossip will happen....but the only people in this house who have earned the right to talk shit about my wife and I..........are my wife and I. You want to talk some dirt to me......fine, be prepared to get a broken nose. I'll ask her after...and you may be right......but nobody trash talks my wife!!

Temporarily out of order........

Due to a shift in priorities, and an acknowledgment that I resemble the above more than I care to admit, I'll be taking a break from blogging for awhile. This is not goodbye friends, but it is time for me to focus more on what really should matter, and less on this computer screen. And let's be honest....this has not been a fun read for any of us for awhile. It's been fun, but it's been destructive as well...and I only have myself to blame. While I accept my shame and bad behavior, and hope to redeem myself with the people that matter most...that will not stop me from blaming all of you. Thats right...you heard me. Over beer and polite conversation, I'll not hesitate for a minute to blame all of you....because...ehh, I'm kinda a dick that way. I'm kidding btw....about the blaming you goofs thing...mostly. See ya all back in a few weeks or months. I've got some serious work to do.......and I'm going to do it. :)

Friday mailbag.....

Like most of you, the Zig house gets it share of mostly junk mail.....chain mails and general crap. I rarely share what I get, because for the life of some "friends", they simply do not understand that I will no immediately forward this email to 5 or more people expecting a miracle. One of those friends sends me just to annoy me...she knows how I feel on this....yes Abby...I'm talking about you! :) This one was a keeper though...hope you enjoy it! :) Maxine on Minorities... We need to show more sympathy for these people. * They travel miles in the heat. * They risk their lives crossing a border. * They don't get paid enough wages. * They do jobs that others won't do or are afraid to do. * They live in crowded conditions among a people who speak a different language. * They rarely see their families and they face adversity all day every day... I'm not talking about illegal Mexicans, I'm talking about our troops! Doesn't it seem strange that many Democrats and Republicans are willing to lavish all kinds of social benefits on illegal's, but don't support our troops and are now threatening to cut funding for them?

Did ya ever...........

want to post, but not post because you were scared shitless? I mean, yeah, you could post something really heartfelt, meaning even, but afraid if you did, the very person you meant it for may take it wrong? Fear that maybe the people that read your posts may form opinions that are either flat ass wrong, or just not what you meant to express? Afraid, that even if they took it right...you still said too damn much and now we are all too creeped out? I love you my wife. You are my heart, my compass, and my dearest friend. I'm deeply sorry I forgot to make sure you always knew that.....I hope I can help you believe, we can feel that way again.

Ya know...

I just wanted to watch Titus. I didn't want to be Titus............ I love you Agrah!!!

No matter how much sense it makes to me..

Trying to do the right thing......is not always me doing the right thing. I love you my heart.

Saying goodbye is never easy...

but seriously old friend...it's time for you to go. We've had alot of laughs together over the years, but at the same time...your just not good for me. I know you're chuckling, I know you don't believe me, but I mean it this time. There may be a ton of things pretty sideways in my life right now, but this is one thing I can control. This is one thing I can do all by myself. I'm going to miss ya kinda I guess, but it's time for us to part ways. Goodbye Camel Lights.

Why I'm boycotting Absolut.....

See this image?? Yeah, the marketing geniuses at Absolut Vodka thought this would be a great marketing ad in latin america. True enough, it probably is a hit there, but it's not going to fly in the Zig house. You can find a more detailed article on the ad HERE. I don't know about you goofs and friends, but there are some damn fine vodkas out there not made by Absolut. I suspect my next bottle will be made by one of the others...:) Update...Absolut apologizes and pulls it's ad.

My Father...

is far more liberal than I am. I mean...well don't get me wrong, but his views of the world with 20 or so years ahead of me count. They count alot. Sometimes...and I'm stealing a phrase from my father....we forget to pet the kitty. This goes both ways by the way, ego's are fragile, male or female. I am guilty of this. We forget, not just sex...how to not just say "I love you", but show it also. We forget how much a hug, or holding hands counts. We forget, and get too fucking comfortable. We forget simple things like having lunch or dinner together, holding a door open, helping out around the house.. For all my humanity and personal failures...this is my biggest. I got too fucking comfortable. Add that to my personal trust issues, jealousy and insecurities....this really should have been a no brainer. I fucked up. I know this isn't going to be fixed in a day, any more so than it took a day to damage it. Hell, I don't even know for sure it can be fixed. But..... Whatever it takes, whatever it takes..... I love you Agrah! I want to fix this. I want US to work together to fix this. I love you.

I LOVE YOU!

Whatever it takes, whatever the cost, I love you. If this can be fixed, lets fix it. Whatever I have to do, I'll do it. Whatever you need to do, I'll accept it. I love you.

You've been an asshole all I've known you..

This my friends was a sentence from a good friend. I called to catch up, yak, and just in general bullshit. When we discussed his personal problems...I fucked up and got a little PC with him...he busted my balls! Now that MS has taken his better part of the right foot, he truly has a lead foot when he drives. We had a good laff. Any call that ends in a smile...where you've said good bye ass face, and the other says later dick....is a good call. Maybe it's a guy thing..

In moments of personal reflection....

inanely screaming in anger is not only un-helpful, it frightens the cat, possibly the neighbors, and may well illicit a visit from local law enforcement. Scaring the cat is the worst of these...the cat knows where and when you sleep.